This is what I know to be true.

You are worthy.

You are valuable.

You matter.

 

And yet, there are so few people who embody these beliefs.

If the majority of people truly believed this was true, we would not have the discord we have on the planet.

 

Now, here is something else I know to be true.

 

If you want to create peace and love outside of you, you have to first create peace and love inside of you.

 

This applies to everyone and all things on this planet.

 

The reason I am drawing your attention to this is because I was once like you.

 

Hear me out.

 

I thought I loved myself. 

I’m a successful powerful independent woman.

I was all love and light and all that shit, too.

I thought I was doing all kinds of things to take care of me.

I read personal growth books. I did affirmations.

I achieved the goals I wanted to achieve.

I created the success I thought wanted. 

 

Then, I burned out.

 

Well, that was a surprise.

 

I mean what?

 

How did that happen?

 

After a year of recovery, I learned the truth.

 

You cannot love yourself and burnout at the same time.

Those two things are diametrically opposed to one another.

They cannot exist in the same space at once.

 

People who love themselves take care of themselves.

They stop and rest, when they are tired.

They say no, when they don’t want to do something.

They fill themselves up FIRST, before they fill up other people.

They make themselves a priority above all else.

That’s what it means to love yourself.

 

When you love yourself, you actually do loving things for yourself.

 

So, I burned out because I was more focused on the outside of me than I was on the inside of me.

 

Does that make sense?

 

We live in a society that glorifies your output, your external successes, your contribution to the economy ie: promotions, weight loss, new cars, Fortune 500 businesses, etc.

And this society is broken. 

 

People are living in the streets.

People are dying of addiction.

People are being murdered for their skin colour.

 

What needs to happen is for our society to place value on what’s happening on the INSIDE over what’s happening on the OUTSIDE.

If we tend to our insides FIRST, then go out and do our work in the world, we can more easily help others in need.

We can be of service to our families, our friends, our neighbours and more specifically, those who struggle with mental health issues and so much more. 

 

If you are reading this, you are most likely someone with a big heart and a deep desire to be of service.

 

Listen up!

We cannot be of service to others until we are of service to ourselves.

We cannot fix others and disregard our own brokenness.

This applies even to our children, if we have them.

We cannot be good parents, good wives, friends, lovers, daughters and more unless we take care of ourselves FIRST.

 

We need to take care of our INSIDES first.

So, I am going to ask you this…

How are you going to take care of you?

How are you going to tend to your insides?

How are you going to invest in you, so you can invest in the ones you love today?

 

Let me know. I would love to hear about it.

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